February 11, 2020
Let me preface by saying…..I put the S I N G L E in single. Currently, I’m not dating anyone exclusively, no boo-thangs, no bae, no side piece, no “situationships”, NO NOTHING. And at this point in my life, I’m actually very cool with that. My happiness, freedom, stress-free life, peace of mind and (more importantly) not having to share my queen-size bed with anyone really works for me. I’ve also accepted the fact that this could possibly be my life – forever!
On SEVERAL occasions, I’ve chatted with other single women who wanted to see the world but insisted on waiting for “Mr. Right” to come into their lives to share those travel experiences with. I get that… I guess. Companionship is great! Plus, I’m sure we all would love to be on IG with our fine ass bae posting pictures like this!
Here’s the thing. What if you never meet “Mr. Right”? Are you supposed to not travel? So you’re telling me you have to leave your dream destination just that – a dream?
I think the hell NOT!
One of my “top of the bucket list” destinations has always, ALWAYS been Bora Bora! Every time I came across an overwater bungalow sitting perfectly still over that unbelievably crystal clear water, my heart would stop. But once I thoroughly researched the island, it turned out to be a honeymoon destination.
To Go or Not To Go Solo?
My 35th Birthday was rapidly approaching and at the time, I had the funds to make one of my dream trips a reality. I couldn’t think of anywhere else I wanted to visit before Bora Bora! So I hopped online to look at flights. Right when I was getting ready to hit the purchase button, I paused. I had to think about this…
“Kenya. Do you really want to travel solo to a HONEYMOON destination? Are you up for sitting at the bar next to several newlyweds giving each other the googly eyes n’ sh*t? Are you sure about this?”
10 minutes have gone by now.
……..I’m still thinking.
Finally, I threw caution to the wind and purchased the flight. I’ve been single for 100 years anyway. I enjoy the hell out of my own company. I’ll be on my own time. I’m going to the French Polynesia to DO ME! And that’s that!
Arriving in the French Polynesia
So listen….I’m not about to lie to y’all. The day of my trip, I was nervous as I don’t know what! My mind was running rampant with questions!
“Would this be fun going alone”?!
“Will I get lonely”?!
“Am I really ready to do this”?!
Once on the flight and a glass of white wine was flowing through my system, I calmed down and told myself that I was for SURE ready for this. It was time for this dream destination to become a reality!
When we landed in Tahiti, so many emotions came over me. I couldn’t believe I was actually in THE FRENCH POLYNESIA! Wow! I collected my luggage, scurried into the bathroom and changed from my travel clothes into my bikini & cover-up! It was time to explore!
On the island of Mo’orea
My 1st stop was Mo’orea! I arrived at the Sofitel Mo’orea la Ora Beach Resort ready to check in with the hotel staff member only to be hit with –
“Ms. Williams. Is it just you?”
Me: “HELL YEAH’!
LOL! I didn’t actually say that, but I was damn sure thinking it!
I stepped into my ‘Luxury Bungalow with Garden View’ for one! It was STUNNING! After a few “backflips” in the bed, I poured me up a delicious Herradura Margarita, walked out onto the patio and took it all in.
While in Mo’orea, I booked my excursions with Mo’orea Activities Center to explore the island on ATVs and jet skis. What an AMAZING experience! The only thing that sucked about it was the price. I was still charged the couples rate.
Once my fun-filled day came to an end, I was back in my bungalow where I showered, ordered room service and went to bed….which was at around 8 P.M. (don’t you dare laugh at that. LOL! I’m not a night owl, OK)? However, I was back up at 2:30 A.M., wide awake. So I fixed me another Margarita, turned on my music, pulled back the doors and enjoyed the sound of the ocean nearby. Truly enjoying every second of this vacation!
On the island of Bora Bora
This was the island I’ve been wanting to visit for 10 years! Of course, when I envisioned myself on this island years ago, it was either on a girl’s trip or with my man – NEVER solo. But here I was – happy, excited and ready for this journey!
Renting one of the newly renovated overwater bungalows at the Conrad Bora Bora Nui was definitely the best choice on this vacation! Pure PERFECTION! But what does one do in a huge villa all by themselves? I’m glad you asked.
- Meditate. I cleared my mind of anything and everything that was not of peace. I wholeheartedly lived in those moments and relished in all of the beauty that surrounded me.
- Let loose! I turned the music up on my speakers and danced like no one was watching (which no one was)! Sometimes you gotta’ have your own party!
- Get creative. I decorated the villa with balloons, set up my tripod and had impromptu photoshoots!
- Enjoy the lagoon. I jumped off the bungalow into that stunning turquoise water at least 20 times! CrAzY fun!
- Relax. Opening up the retractable windows of the overwater bungalow and listening to the ocean while deep soaking in the tub with candles burning was the most euphoric night EVER!
I could seriously go on & on & ON about how to enjoy those bungalows! So let me move on!
Once I got out to explore the property I ran into plenty of honeymooners, but I actually ended up engaging in some great conversations with a lot of them which made the swim-up bar scene fun! And guess what… I even met a gorgeous Tahitian man giving off all the flirtatious vibes! Heeeeeey!
There is not a ton of activities to get into in Bora Bora as it is an island really meant for relaxing, but I did manage to try out the Aquabike which was a cool experience. The Aquabike scooter in Bora Bora is built to seat 2 people (of course), but I was still charged the same rate as a double rider (again, the downside of solo traveling – no price breaks)!
Honestly, the mental clarity, solitude, and relaxation in this unbelievably beautiful place were worth every coin that I spent. This is why it was important for me to make this trip happen. Not once did I fear for my safety, I got the chance to meet some really cool people and more importantly, I reconnected with myself.
Taking the time to encourage the next traveler is what this blog is all about! If you’re having doubts about traveling solo, my hope is that your bravery will kick in at any moment, and you’ll have a flight booked to your dream destination in no time. There is absolutely NOTHING like being on your own time and just doing Y O U! It truly is a wonderful thing ♥️